What’s Holding You Back?

One day I’m gonna… (insert daydream here). Everyone has hopes and dreams in life. Some people dream of being an astronaut, some dream of acting, others want to be artists or musicians or dancers. Why do so many of us never follow our passions? A lot of us want well-paid jobs, or fulfilling relationships, or…

Are You Speaking the Same Love Language?

Sometimes, love just isn’t enough. How do you know when it’s the right time to leave a relationship, or if you should be trying harder? A lot of the success in a relationship comes down to whether the two of you speak and understand how the other expresses love and what you each need from…

Red Flags in Dating

What is a red flag and what is a deal breaker? How big does the warning sign need to be before you draw a line in the sand and stick to it? These are all questions which only you can answer for yourself, but if you find that you second-guess your own judgement about someone…

The Mindset of a Well-Balanced Person

Well-balanced people are more likely to encounter success. Everyone’s definition of success is different. You may equate success as work-related while someone else might define it as having a solid relationship. In the end, it doesn’t matter what kind of success you’re looking for, because the underlying mindset of a well-balanced person works in any…

Red Flags of a Narcissist

After someone has come out of a relationship or even just a friendship with a narcissist, they often question how they got sucked in at the start. What signs did they miss? Are there clues which you can look for in order to avoid people and how far do you have to become involved before…

Who is Allowed to Have Feelings?

Quick question: Are you a sentient, living being? Do you think you are allowed to have feelings? If the answer is yes to both of those, then congratulations; you’re allowed to have feelings. Well, guess I solved that problem real quick. I probably have time to do my laundry now… And yet, the problem still…

Why You’re Not Trusting Your Instincts

In our day and age it can be almost impossible to justify following your gut instinct. We’re so conditioned to treat it as lacking in logic, or being too emotionally based, or of being too reactionary and not based on facts. Is this how instinct actually works? That’s a complicated question. First of all, no,…

Overcoming Relationship Trauma

Someone who has been on the receiving end of abuse will do almost everything in their power to avoid conflict. When in a relationship, they make themselves as pleasing as possible, prioritise their partner above their own needs, and avoid contradicting the other person. However, an abusive person will invariably bring all interactions around to…

5 Relationship Styles Which are Deeply Unfulfilling

If you have ever felt neglected in a relationship then you may have experienced one or more of the following 5 types of relationships. All of these styles of relationship are toxic in their own way and all of them center around one person having their needs unmet. These relationships can be romantic attachments, family…

I Still Love My Abuser

My husband was my best friend. I loved him and he said that he loved me. We hung out all the time, did lots of fun things together, talked about our future plans, socialised as a package deal and shared a lot of laughter. But something was wrong and I couldn’t figure out what it…